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Neo-Pagan Modern Thoughts On Society

Its nice to make the journey through our life with friends and family. They help us on the journey. They become our sounding board for our crazy ideas and whimsical stories of life’s complications. They are there to listen and we are there to listen to them in turn. Its the give and take in a friendship based relationship and one that should be treasured forever.

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Image of red and gold tulipsLife is an ever changing thing. And it seems that the older we get the faster time seems to fly. We just can’t stop it.

Its nice to make the journey through our life with friends and family. They help us on the journey. They become our sounding board for our crazy ideas and whimsical stories of life’s complications. They are there to listen and we are there to listen to them in turn. Its the give and take in a friendship based relationship and one that should be treasured forever.

But what happens to that small percentage of friends who fall in love, start dating someone monogomously and then disappear from their own friends lives? They seem to just fade away. Why do some friends do this? Can’t they handle having friends AND relationships at the same time? Is it too much work for them and does it take too much time?

I never understood this phenomena. Here are some examples:

Friend H – We have been friends for a very long time. We have been through thick and thin. The constant theme to our friendship has been love. When is H going to find love. When will H find somone who knows the definition of commitment? Are there any straight males out there who can actually stay true to one girl? Then one day, POOF! H is gone. Vanished into the world of possible romance. And this is not the first time. H does it all the time. Everytime a man comes into her life, she drops her friends like a sandwich filled with ants. No room for friends, only a man! The sad truth is that the relationship always seems to fail. Then POOF! Friend H is back in her friends life again, complaining that she just can’t find that right man!

Friend F – Growing up with this friend was quite an experience and one that built me as a human being in the end. Friend F is actually a second cousin as well. We have known eachother all of our lives. She was there when my mother passed away, but sadly was already starting to fade away at that time. Friend F ended up marrying a homophobic bible thumping egomaniac. POOF! No more friend and cousin F. Vanished into thin air.

Friends E and K – Two for the price of one. Its always strange when friends fall in love with eachother. It doesn’t happen all that much really. But when it does, it normally is a time to celebrate because now everyone can be together and have a blast and grow old together. But oh no, POOF! Two friends vanish into thin air. They found love and perhaps they don’t want past stories brought up with their current friends, so now maybe they need to find new friends that don’t know either’s past tales of drunken escapades. Hard to watch one friend vanish compared to two at once.

So what does all this mean? It just means, that friends come into our life and go out of our life with ease. Perhaps those friends that are leaving are just making more room for the new ones that are headed our way. I don’t think I will ever understand it, but times are a changing on a constant basis and I embrace the opportunity to meet new friends and grow old (maybe) with them! Or maybe I just need to make friends with people who are already married and settled down and avoid all of the drama completely!!!

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