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Its the slightly new trend in friendships, Friends with Benefits. FwB roughly equates to having a friend you think is hot and being able to sleep with that same friend and yet maintain your friendship over time. A twisted way of looking at friendship overall for sure.

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Its the slightly new trend in friendships, Friends with Benefits. FwB roughly equates to having a friend you think is hot and being able to sleep with that same friend and yet maintain your friendship over time. A twisted way of looking at friendship overall for sure.

Image of Childhood friends walking through the woodsWhat is a friend in the first place? A friend is a companion, that hopefully last through life. A friend is someone who is supposed to be there for you while you test the waters of other relationships, jobs, family issues and other kindling friendships. Friends are the people in your life that you bounce ideas around with and try out different philosophical perspectives. Friends listen to your dreams and give you their opinion when you need it and only when you need it. Friends protect you from harm as much as possible and friends never jeopardize your trust.

When you throw in lust to the pot of friendship you create an entirely different beast. The beast that emerges from that Halloween cauldron of carnel desire is not the type of friend you would want to hang around for the rest of life. Friends with benefits will harm you in more ways than one. FwB will get in the way of an individual ever being able to mature and sustain healthy adult relationships. FwB is just another acronym for FB! And we all know what those two letters represent (hint: its not Facebook! Though very often that is where you meet your FB!)

A real friend is not someone who would consider being your friend just because they think you are hot and want to sleep with you. A real friend is your friend JUST BECAUSE! There are no physical payoff rewards for friendships. They are emotional and come from that deep space inside of you that can only be touched by those very close to you.

So beware the person who even suggests that your friendship be taken to the FwB stage. You don’t need friends like that for they don’t see a future friendship with you unless you roll in the hay with them and then act like nothing ever happened. Friends hang in there through thick and thin and never push their own physical agenda on you. They don’t even think that way to begin the friendship.

Lovers come and go, true friends are always there!

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